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The Black
15-05-2006, 23:32
Basically, I need some sober answers to my problems, and I'm hoping that the foreverdelayed community might give me some advice...
Please be serious.

I'm in a relationship, going on 8 months.
Sweet girl, love her to bits.
However I think she's a bit too interested in other men.


She had a boyfriend many years ago, that turned into nothing at that time, he left her hanging and basically came back with a bang during our relationship. Now he had given her all the sweettalk, and she confessed to me to liking it, and liking him, and that she didn't know what to do. After talking about the situation she had decided to block him, no more text messages or msn conversations. I had found out she had NOT blocked him, but she acted as if she didn't know he wasn't blocked, and blocked him whilst I was there. That seemed to be the end.....


On a different note:
On a recent trip with girlfriends they came across some men, one took a liking to her. They all hung around with eachother along this trip, however one of her girlfriends let slip that my girlfriend was taken, so he backed off.
Now my girlfriend had told me she didn't know he liked her, and that even when he rubbed her thigh it seemed harmless, she told me she thought he was ugly, and didn't like him, but 8 hours later she confessed to me that she did like him.
This was preceeded by asking me what I would if I went on holiday and I met a girl I liked, what I would do.
During the trip she had confessed to her girlfriend she liked him and her girlfriend had asked her the advantages of me, and those of him. And she came up with more advantages towards me, so therefore I was the right person for her.


Now it has come to light that the first guy from my first part of the story has been deblocked again, and that she probably strikes up conversations with him again.


I wouldn't ever have thought these things of her, beleive me when I say she NEVER EVER would seem to be the kind of person to go flirting around. However I think she is doing it, and it angers me, but when I'm with her I feel great, and sadly enough in love. When I'm not with her I feel hatred and sadness.

What would your reaction be to all these things?
How would you feel?

I wouldn't want to lose her, but these things are driving me insane at this moment in time. I get the feeling when I'm not with her I'm just waiting for her to dump me for someone else, but when I'm with her she makes me feel needed. Maybe she needs me, because then she knows she's not alone, but if there's a replacement it's bye bye for me.


Should I break this relationship off?

knives out
15-05-2006, 23:51
If I was with a guy and he even vaguely considered going out with someone else, I'd dump him. I don't think it's worth trying when someones wandering after only 8 months...

kiriyama
15-05-2006, 23:55
Now it has come to light that the first guy from my first part of the story has been deblocked again, and that she probably strikes up conversations with him again.




It sounds like someone has the jealousy bug. Instead of going on the internet bitching about her, why don't you go ask her about it, tell her how you feel, and whatever you do, don't make it seem like she's completely in the wrong.

Cheers

jules
16-05-2006, 04:58
Should I break this relationship off?

i think it depends on how much you want to be with her and what you're willing to put up with. if i were in your position, and if everything you think she's doing is true, i would be really annoyed and would probably end things. but i would confront her about it first and try to resolve things before you decide to do anything. and to me, if she's flirting around behind your back, then that's probably worse than doing it in your presence.