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Laura Claudia
19-06-2003, 22:47
Is it possible?
Check your msn chat logs!
Lover of Outrage
19-06-2003, 23:20
A girl I used to work with left her husband to take up with an 'online love' she'd hardly met. I don't know how it worked out though.
Oh dear, ash what have you been up to now? :p
manic cow
19-06-2003, 23:36
I think that'd be infatuation, rather than love. You have to meet someone and get to know them in real life to know if you really love them, I think.
I'm kinda experienced on this now I spose... I met my ex online (via the manics community), and that didn't work out, because we had less in common than we thought really. And um...I met my new boyfriend online via the manics community too. But I've known him for about 2 years and have met him loads in real life before anything happened.
(I can meet blokes in real life too before someone mocks my pulling skills, I'm just too lazy to bother going out much!)
So yeah... get to know em in reality to see if the 'love' is as real as you want it to be, that would be my advice :)
It might work for other people, but not for me I think. I've only ever met one person that I knew exclusively from the internet, and it was odd to say the least, because it was like I was meeting a complete stranger who knew everything about me...it freaked me out.
princess
19-06-2003, 23:53
Originally posted by manic cow
. And um...I met my new boyfriend online via the manics community too. But I've known him for about 2 years and have met him loads in real life before anything happened.
You mean....:eek:
And I was just about to ask her out :lol:
maradona
19-06-2003, 23:56
i've had many hot and sexy lesbian relationships online but sadly none of them have made it into 'real life' yet ;)
manic cow
19-06-2003, 23:59
Originally posted by princess
You mean....:eek:
hehe maybe ;)
princess
20-06-2003, 00:06
That is so gay.
CardiacHeartache
20-06-2003, 00:06
I've had a couple of online crushes, but never acted on them...the worst thing I get is that when I've been using Yahoo messenger, and girls tend to message me...and we chat a bit, generally about music and life and stuff, just fun things, then she starts flirting with me, and I'm really not keen on online flirting (mainly 'cos I know nothing can happen). So that kinda upsets me. The worst i had recently was when a girl told me that she liked me too much, and she was really fucked up about it. How was that supposed to make me feel? Yeah I have problems meeting women in the real world, but I think I've gained enough perspective to realise you can make acquaintances and friends over the net, but anything more can only be built out of personal contact.
Having said that one of my penpals met a guy over the net, now they're living together happily. I guess anything's possible.
Amanda Graceywire
20-06-2003, 00:06
*missed something in that*... :)
It can indeed work, just be careful. :)
manic cow
20-06-2003, 00:35
Originally posted by princess
That is so gay.
Not at all! It'd be gay for me if it was a woman, surely? :p *thought everyone from the other place knew anyway*
Well i met someone, then talked to them on msn, but it didn't really have a lot to do with the net. I don't think it can work for everyone, maybe working is the exception.
deadstars
20-06-2003, 08:27
My aunt met her husband online - after a previous marriage breakup - they seem to be fine...
Also an old friend of mine (who i reacquainted with recently) met his girlfriend of three years on the internet, and they manage to keep it going across the ocean, as she lives in Canada... i think they were getting married....
i suppose there will always be success stories and always be problems...
the problem with the internet is you can be whoever you want to be....
Flirting is easier on MSN than in real life, I always try to remember who I'm talking to so that I can stay appropriate :)
About two years ago someone put up a website and chat room for ex-pupils of my old school. Marriages were collapsing all over the place as ex-girlfriends and boyfriends stayed up until 2 am in the chat room.
relic
Sleepflower
20-06-2003, 08:40
I personally don't agree with online love. But it's what works for others and if that works then so be it
manic cow
20-06-2003, 08:57
Originally posted by relic
Flirting is easier on MSN than in real life, I always try to remember who I'm talking to so that I can stay appropriate :)
I agree with that, definitely. I'm standing by my theory that you've gotta meet the person and have that connection - which may not even have been a connection you were aware of online anyway. It's definitely very easy to fall into the trap of convincing yourself that someone is who you want them to be, and it's just as easy for them to pretend to be that... which is why I'm generally sceptical of online dating services and things like that. (Saying that, I'd never use any dating service, I'm more a believer in fate, and hunting for men is not my style :p )
littlebabynothing79
20-06-2003, 11:05
I think it is..maybe life and technology has made things different for us relationships wise (not finding the right words).
But sometimes when you take it into reality it can be really good i.e cos you've found it easier making a connection (bond) with this person or it could go completely PETE TONG.
It worked for me anyhow..say no more :D
Laura Claudia
20-06-2003, 12:44
Thanks everybody for telling me what you think... ah I don't know... I don't even know what I think about it myself. I've been there once... I met a boy and we talked a lot.. and then I met him and... it's wasn't at all as I thought it would be. It was horrible actually and we both ended up hurt. Not the best thing. Gah...
wouldnt know, but then it could work. i have no idea. useless post then.
Theres nothing wrong with using the internet as a way of meeting people I think, but ultimately you have to bear in mind that if you want a relationship with someone you have to meet them. I know that sounds stupid and obvious, but it can make it really awkward if you've been all lovey-dovey with someone you don't really know and then you meet them. Plus, I think sometimes people can project a very different version of themselves onto the internet, for instance I'm a rather quiet, shy and moody person, but I'm nothing like that when I speak to people on the internet. In some ways its a good thing that you lose your inhibitions a bit when you speak to people on the net, but equally part of the fun for me in meeting new people is getting to know them. If you already know everything about the other person before you meet them it kinda takes the fun out of it...
Some relationships work much better online then they do in real life too. I talk to a female friend of my best mate's all the time on the internet, and we always have a really good natter because we have very similiar interests and senses of humour. I've met her a few times in real life though, and we just don't get on. I had a huge crush on her too so it really fucked me up at the time :(
Terminal Young Thing
20-06-2003, 14:12
I've met one person off the internet and plan to meet a few more, as well as those of us at Move.
I personally agree with all those who said stuff along the lines of, it's a good place to start, but it's not the same unless you really know them in real life.
Culture_Claire
20-06-2003, 15:24
I git to know a guy called Richie over he internet.. he was a big manics fanand all..he was really nice, turned out ot be one of my bestfriends.. but then he claimed to be in love and our friendship was ruined...
*didz and jam*
20-06-2003, 17:21
I think it can definitely work, as long as you see the person enough. You can't have a relationship online, and not in real life, cos then it isn't.. real? But I think you can definitely meet someone online, and then get together in real life.
Nah, it just ain't natural.
You cannae see the buggers, they send you the BEST photos they have of themselves, how do you know you really like someone if you've never properly been in their company?
It's good for making friends, right, but it can't beat getting drunk and making a tit of yourself to people in pubs and clubs and the like.
Abstract Unknown Girl
20-06-2003, 23:43
I can't say I've had online love as such, but there was something I had with a guy for about 2 years which has only really just fizzled out over the last few weeks actually. We've not actually met, but we talked loads on MSN and via text and we were meant to be meeting at Move but circumstances changed, I won't go into now but it's amazing how much a person you've never met can affect you. I think it can work in some cases, it really does depend. I think I'm happier knowing a guy face to face first though, although it is easier to flirt on MSN!
its much easier to get close with someone over the net and confuse those feelings. its not a good idea I think - its much more rewarding to just... 'get out there'. the net becomes a safety net for lovers with no one to love..
I find it easier to talk online, because I'm shy with new people in real life. Sure, I think online love/lust is possible, but it's probably not for me.
Meeting new friends online - thats a different thing. *waves to fd board*
*didz and jam*
21-06-2003, 11:36
Originally posted by Joe
I find it easier to talk online, because I'm shy with new people in real life. Sure, I think online love/lust is possible, but it's probably not for me.
Meeting new friends online - thats a different thing. *waves to fd board*
yeah, i find it easier to talk online as well. and online you can easily meet people with the same interests/beliefs as you, and therefore meet people who have more in common with you. i don't actually know anyone around here who's like me. and meeting people online is the solution for that i think.
and i think it's silly to say that online love isn't possible, because for plenty of people it is.
alexliamw
23-06-2003, 15:48
I think it could work if you met someone who lives near you and you met up before anything too serious had been said online. However, long distance ones seem to always end in tears. The flipside of the fact that its easier to flirt on MSN is that its also easier to say things that you don't really mean...and then people trick themselves into believing it too.
Culture Junky
23-06-2003, 16:23
I met my boyfriend on the internet and we're fine.
I met Kevin in 2001 whilst Napster was at it's height and he was downloading Spectators of Suicide from me but it kept mucking up, then he said to me 'what's the matter with this song?' and then we just started chatting about the Manics. The first ever email I sent to him was a list of Richey's favourite books.
We then started to chat on MSN whenever we were both online and then it became more frequent and then every day when he got home from work.
I then met him about 6 months later, after chatting to him for hours every day. He only visited as a friend for the first few times but we started to fall for eachother and then we became boyfriend and girlfriend (that sounds like we're ten years old I know!)'
He visited every couple of months (he's from Bognor Regis I'm from Cardiff) and then left for three months to travel America with his best mate. That was when I really knew he was the one for me, and when he returned he came to live with me in Cardiff because we just want to be together forever.
He's been living with me for a year now (with my parents) and has got a steady job in Cardiff and we plan on getting our own place in the next 6 months. Then our next plan is to get married.
I've met his family loads of times and our parents have met eachother too. So i know it's real.
I know I'm lucky to have found him on something like the Internet and I often wonder if we had lived in the same place would we have looked at eachother at all. I fell in love with Kevin's personality on the Internet though that may seem odd. But i feel that I knew him before I met him, he didn't really seem like a stranger though the first meeting was awkward but I suppose like going on a blind date or something.
But he's my soulmate and I am madly in love with him and one day I'll be his wife, bless :o
So it can work guys! :)
Sorry if it seems lovey dovey but i'm just telling me story
I like stories.....;)
I'll have to post a picture of us together on here so you know tis true.....
Culture Junky
Originally posted by Culture Junky
I met my boyfriend on the internet and we're fine.
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awww... schweet
That's a great story. Thanks for bringing something nice into my day :D
relic
Culture Junky
23-06-2003, 16:28
:) Cool
May everybody on Forever Delayed find true love.....
:D
Culture Junky
28-06-2003, 10:44
How do you attach a photograph to a message on here?
I would like to add a picture of myself and my boyfriend that I met via the net....it's a lovely picture too, of us dressed up to go the Manics Forever Delayed CIA gig on the first night. Well I say dressed up just with spray painted t-shirts on and a bit of glitter and eyeliner (me that is)....
Somebody tell me how I post a picture.....plz..
Culture Junky
xx
aaw your story is so nice!! :D
to post a pic, you need to upload it somewhere, and then type the address in your message, with [ img ] and [ /img ] around the address (without the spaces). that should do it!
swelegant
28-06-2003, 15:13
Culture Junky that's such a lovely story :)
A good friend of mine met her new husband over the internet about 3 years ago. Moved countries to be with him and everything. They're currently expecting their first child and they both seem really happy :) So it can happen, with probably the same probability if you had met the same person in a pub or a supermarket or something.
r.e.v.o.l.l.o.v.e.r
28-06-2003, 17:06
Originally posted by Methadone Pretty
Oh dear, ash what have you been up to now? :p
Moi? How do I fit into all this?
Luv, Ash xxx
Hi all
I hope your all keepin well
I met my ex girlfriend off the internet and it will be something i never wanna do again.
We met in October of 2001 things started off so well and it was like a dream come true for me as i have found it difficult in a way to be accepted by people what with being bullied and not really having a great deal of friends which i dont have now so for me maybe being a bit thoughtless and a bit desperate which i am not frightend to admit as i was starting to get very lonely as i had not been with anyone since i was 15 in a friendship or relaitionship i decided to give it a go.
She sent me a picture i sent her mine and i coudunt believe my eyes she was just beautiful even though it could of been fake but i was just smitten from that momment on she was so kind she was lovely towards me and i couldunt believe someone being so nice to me she even actually said i looked nice which in my opinion im not but it was nice to here someone actually saying i looked nice.
We talked on the phone the day after and to my amazement she asked me out or to go visit her i was a wee bit frightend but i just knew i had to say yes may of been stupid i know but for the first time in my life at that point i felt so happy.
I went to visit her on the saturday just before i left she phoned and asked me to stay the night i agreed and set off when we got there things started so well we talked held hands she kissed me i kissed her and i just felt so in love at that point then her mate who was at her house as well started to ask to speak to her upstairs and when she came back down she didnt wanna touch me nothing i wondered what i did only wish i knew.
We went out for the night and yet again we where all over each other but i looked across at her mate and if looks could kill she would of killed me stone dead but i just laughed anyways
after the best night of my life with the one girl ill only ever love and spending the night together i got back home to a phone call from her which she said it had to end i was devastated i then had a phone call from her mate in which she said she knew she would split us up it feel like someone had just killed me and it still does now when i think of her.
After i tried to get back with her both her and my ex decided to get rid of me by accusing me of being a peadophile and a child molester accusing me of rape i started recieving threats off the net from ppl which i couldunt handle and it hurts more to think my ex was doing it and it most of all to be accused of being those things.
The stupid thing is is that i still love cant stop thinking of her ever since we split i have become scared to get involved with anyone i have been with other ppl since but i continuesly get hurt or used which makes me stupid i know but i just wanted to be happy.
Now though i am alone and i just dont know if ill ever be able to commit to being a friend or a lover to anyone as the expierience i had has now become a continued pattern of hurt.
When your on the net you can say anything to anyone without them knowing that your lying or telling the truth or you just dont know whos on the other screen so my advice is if your going to meet someone off here plz plz plz be careful.
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